Conversation 5: Showing Up Anyway: Because Life Isn’t Waiting

Hello, my Blossomers! 

So… what are we supposed to do when life completely blindsides us?

(Serious question. Because if anybody has the handbook, please pass it over.)

This year, life threw me into a storm I wasn’t ready for — losing my mom in February changed everything. And when I say everything, I mean everything.

The world didn’t just feel different — I felt different.

Broken. Shaky. Some nights, unslept. Some days, just… blank.

And somehow, in the middle of that wreckage, I’m still supposed to be a mom. I am still supposed to get up. Still supposed to live.

Let’s face it, the bills won’t stop and last time I looked (and googled) around, ain’t too many people giving large sums of money for you to grief properly.

 

But how though?

How are we supposed to “just keep going” when it feels like every step forward hurts?

How are we supposed to inspire our kids when we’re sitting there wondering if we even believe the pep talks ourselves?

How do you show up for life when you don’t even recognize your own life anymore?

 

Here’s what I’m learning:

You don’t have to have all the answers.

You don’t have to have a five-step healing plan.

You don’t even have to be strong every day.

You just have to show up!

And sometimes? Showing up looks like:

• Getting out of bed even though grief is sitting on your chest like a boulder.
• Encouraging your daughter’s new drawing, when the tears are blurring your vision.
• Laughing at a dumb meme even though you’re still hurting inside.
• Dreaming — even if the dream feels far away.

It’s messy. It’s confusing. It’s NOT pretty Instagram quotes and clean journal pages.

It’s trying, failing, crying, laughing, cussing, praying, trying again.

But every time you show up, you’re winning.

Even if it doesn’t feel like it right away.

 

Would my mom be proud of the woman I am becoming?

That’s a question that runs laps in my mind some days.

And you know what? I believe she would.

Not because I’ve got it all figured out (I don’t).

Not because I’m handling everything perfectly (I’m absolutely not, I personally went through a crash out session, which I visit often).

But because I’m still here.

I’m still trying.

I'm still fighting.

I’m still showing up, even when I don’t know what the hell I’m doing.

That’s what building a beautiful life looks like sometimes — surviving first. Growing second. Winning third.

We all want to be happy, healthy, wealthy, and living our best lives. But let’s be really real — most of us weren’t taught how to navigate real grief, real setbacks, real fear.

We weren’t handed blueprints or some mythical wand that makes it all disappear.

 A lot of those lifestyle “coaches” out here love giving advice like, “Just think positive!” or “Manifest it!” like they’ve never had life punch them in the face while they were still on the ground from the last hit.

But here, in this space, we keep it honest:

Some days you’re going to feel like you’re killing it. Some days you’re going to feel like life is killing you.

Both are normal. Both are part of the journey.

We’re building a community for people who are ready to grow even if their hands are shaking.

A community where it’s safe to say:

• “I’m not okay today.”
• “I don’t know what the next step is.”
• “But I’m still showing up for my life anyway.”

 

Because THAT is you God given power.

And THAT is what will change your life over time — not perfection, not pretending, but courage in the middle of chaos.

 If nobody else has told you today:

I see you.

I’m proud of you.

Keep showing up.

Your story isn’t over yet — and damn it, it’s about to get good.

Your Show Up Starter Kit (Even When Life is Dragging You)

If you’re wondering “Okay, but HOW do I keep showing up when I feel like trash?” — here’s some real-life, regular-person advice that doesn’t require a vision board, a trust fund, or 3 hours of free time you don’t have:

 

1. Do one thing a day that moves you forward.

Some days, that’s applying for a new job.

Some days, it’s putting on real pants.

Both counts.

 

2. Let yourself feel the feelings — then keep it moving.

Cry. Ugly cry. Snot cry if needed. But don’t live there. Grief is a visitor, not a permanent roommate.

 

3. Lower the bar when you have to.

Can’t clean the whole house? Wipe the kitchen counter.

Can’t meal prep for the week? Eat a sandwich.

Progress > perfection. Always.

 

4. Find one good thing today — no matter how small.

A funny meme.

A sunny sky.

A text from someone who loves you.

Small joys count. They keep your soul fed when life feels dry.

 

5. Talk to someone real.

Not the ones who hit you with “just be grateful” speeches when you’re barely breathing.

Find a friend, a group, a therapist — someone who lets you be real without judging you.

 

6. Remember why you’re fighting.

Whether it’s for your kids, your future, your inner peace — your “why” will carry you when motivation won’t.

 

7. Celebrate survival like it’s a win.

Because it is!!!

Every day you stay in the fight, even when you don’t feel strong, you’re building a life that’s filled with faith, tougher, wiser, and way more beautiful than you know.

Through this post, you probably can tell that I am a certified momma’s girl. My God given love of my life and she’s deeply missed. But I know the show must go on and I must show up like the diva she bore me to be. (She also made my daughter’s some certified Divas, who takes no nonsense!)  So, I rise and continue to push towards my dreams, with my mom in my heart to keep me focused on the end goal.

Let’s get the conversation started, did you ever have to deal with grief or heartbreak? How were you able to continue moving forward? If you still have issues with moving forward, do you think any of my suggestions will help you process your feelings better, so that you’re able to start your journey, again?

Please feel free to reach out to me, if you just need a one on one conversation with someone who's grieving too. I'm here to listen and offer my love and support at your difficult time. 

P.S. I am not a licensed therapist!!!! I am just a person like you navigating through life and learning positive and productive steeps to improve our lives.